Bono revealed that his family “never talked” about his mother after her death when he was just 14 years old.
The lead singer of U2, 62, said he and his older brother Norman had very few memories of his mother Iris for this reason and was meant to “avoid the pain” of her loss.
Iris died in September 1974, just days after suffering a stroke at her father’s funeral.
Sad Times: Bono (pictured) revealed that his family “never talked” about his mother after her death when he was just 14
‘I’m afraid it was worse,’ Bono said in his new memoir Surrender: 40 Songs, One Story. We hardly ever thought of her again.
We were three Irish men, and we avoided the pain we knew would come from thinking and talking about her.
At his grandfather’s funeral, he remembered the people who told him that his mother had passed out.
Family: The U2 lead singer, 62, said he and his older brother Norman had very few memories of his mother Iris for this reason and that it was to ‘avoid the pain’ of her loss (photo of Iris and her husband Bob on their wedding day in 1949 )
He remembers: “I noticed my father holding my mother in his arms in a crowd, like a white snooker ball strewn with a triangle of color.
He rushes to take her to the hospital. She collapsed on the side of the grave as her father was lowered to the ground.
Three days later, he and Norman were taken to the hospital to say goodbye to their mother.
After telling how the three men lived in “sadness, mystery and melodrama” due to the absence of Iris.
Raw: An account of the time following her death, Bono says in his new memoir: Surrender: 40 Songs, One Story: ‘We were three Irish men, and we avoided the pain we knew would come from thinking and talking about her’ (Pictured) Bono with his father Bob year 2000)
It comes after Bono revealed earlier this year how he knelt in prayer in a candlelit French church asking for forgiveness from his late father for the way he treated him after his mother’s death.
In a candid interview on Desert Island Discs, the frontman said he finally felt “free” after the gesture that allowed him to dispel the guilt that has plagued him for years.
“I apologized to my father in a chapel in France after his death,” he said. I went up to this chapel, and there was no one there and lit a candle.
I got on my knees, and just said “Look, I’m sorry I wasn’t there for you. I’ve been through so much, please forgive me, and I felt so free.”
The trip: It comes after Bono revealed earlier this year how he knelt in prayer in a candlelit French church asking for forgiveness from his late father for the way he treated him after his mother’s death.
The star thought he could have been more supportive of his father, Bob, after the death of his mother, Iris, from a brain aneurysm he suffered at her father’s funeral in 1974, when the singer was 14.
Norman Bono – real name Paul Hewson – said of adapting to a male-only family with his father and brother: “I had a complicated relationship with Bob. You know I’m sure it was hard to handle. The troublesome gene was very present.
He didn’t quite know what was going on and I later understood that he was dealing with other things in his life. I feel like I wasn’t really there for him the way I should be. He was very comical and very funny but got tough.
The relationship was further complicated when, in 2000, the singer found out that he had a half-brother – and his mother was unaware of her husband’s infidelity.
“I asked him if he liked my mom and he said ‘yes’ and I said, ‘How can this happen?'” Bono said, remembering the confrontation. He said ‘maybe’, and that he was trying to make it right, trying to do the right thing. He wasn’t apologizing, just stating these facts.
Despite the tensions, Bono spoke warmly of his father, who challenged his Catholic family by marrying Iris, a Protestant. He said that U2, founded in 1976, has become “another family”.
Close: He said that U2, formed in 1976, became “another family” after his difficult childhood (LR: Adam Clayton, Bono, The Edge, Larry Mullen Jr. in 1981)